Finding Comfort During a Stressful Experience

Visualization can be such a valuable tool to help us move through and toward our goals and dreams.  I want to share a brief story with you on how visualization helped me move through a very stressful experience.  I was working as a counselor at a boy’s treatment ranch in Northern California during the mid-1990’s.  It happened to be kind of a rough place.  Most of the boys had been abused one way or another during their upbringing and didn’t have a good foundation of love, acceptance and boundaries set for them by their families.  Because of this, there was a lot of anger and other inappropriate behavior.  Sometimes we had to break up fights or were actually attacked ourselves physically as well as verbally.  It wasn’t an easy two years of employment there I can assure you, but I truly wanted to try and make a difference and help reach some of the kids so that they could have a better finish to their life.  


One day I remember having had to break up a fight between two boys with some of my co-workers.  As is usually the case after a fight we would take the offending parties to separate rooms where they could cool down and become “safe” again.  Due to California law, we weren’t able to lock these rooms, so one of the staff had to hold the door shut from the outside and watch through a window to make sure that the boy was being safe toward himself.  Many times while this procedure took place, the offending boy would still be “fired up” from his fight and would take it out on staff verbally.  It also wasn’t unusual for a troubled teen to spit on the window or try to urinate underneath the small crack at the base of the door to try and get some on us.  Well after this one particular fight between two teens, the one that I was watching was just letting me have it with all kinds of offensive swear words and threats.  Now I knew that what he was saying about me wasn’t true and that he was just basically mad at himself for getting into that situation, but when you are getting barraged with negativity, it’s hard to not let some of it slip into your consciousness.  After a while I was getting really worn out from listening to his angry rants and threats.  So to counter what was happening, I decided to come up with a mantra then and there that I continue to use to this day.  I began to say to myself, “I am love, I spread love and I am surrounded by love.”  I just kept repeating it over and over in my head.  It was amazing how it began to help me almost immediately. And after a few minutes you know what?  The young man began to relax as well.  Whether or not it was coincidence or he actually felt my energy change, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is that I was able to find comfort, love and relaxation during a very stressful experience.  

Copyright G. Brian Benson 2013Image

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Founder of Reawaken Media. Writer, multiple award-winning author, TEDx speaker, actor, filmmaker, storyteller, inspirational poet, radio personality, finisher of over 50 triathlons (including 4 Ironman distance races) and cross-country bicyclist. 2016 is already heating up for Brian as he he has a recurring part on the new TV show Sangre Negra, has been invited to give a TEDx talk in Pasadena at the end of May, was interviewed for the soon to be released documentary The Last Formula and will be releasing his new film short Searching for Happiness in early summer. In addition to acting in TV and film, Brian enjoys creating his own projects. In 2011 Brian created Guitar Man, a movie project that he wrote, produced and acted in that was filmed in downtown Reno, Nevada. The movie was written by Brian with the idea of sharing the messages ‘that we all have a lot in common’ and ‘that our true gifts reside within ourselves.’ Guitar Man was well received and was accepted to 11 movie festivals and was a winner at the Love Unlimited Film and Art Festival, won an honorable mention prize in the narrative short category at the 2011 Los Angeles Movie Awards as well as a Golden Reel Award from the Nevada Film Festival. Before Brian got into acting he authored four books, including Brian’s List – 26 1/2 Easy To Use Ideas on How to Live A Fun, Balanced, Healthy Life! which was the winner of a 2009 Next Generation Indie Book Award in the Self-Help category. Brian’s latest book Finding Your Voice was an award-winning Finalist in both the 2013 USA Book News and the Indie Excellence Book Awards. Brian lives in Los Angeles, California and will be releasing his first children's book "Steve the Alien" in late October of 2016. Visit Brian's website -

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2 thoughts on “Finding Comfort During a Stressful Experience”

  1. great story! Thank you for sharing. I also work with unstable people and it always helps to remain calm and attempt not to take things personally, though obviously this is difficult at times.

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