Truth be told, what is your pain threshold?

A very good friend of mine once said that “death creates awareness”.  I find myself really understanding what she meant as I mourn the loss of a very dear friend whose life tragically ended not quite 2 weeks ago.  Michael Kendall was a friend to many, a teacher, a messenger of truth and most importantly a student. 

We are all students in the scheme of life, but what made Michael stand out was that he tried to help others learn from his past mistakes.  Michael was the co-author of a fantastic book called “A Truthful Opportunity”.  In his book he bared his soul and became absolutely transparent in relating his life’s mistakes and how they transformed him into the person that he was before he passed.  His message was truth.  His message was speak your truth and you will be set free.  No more hiding behind one’s fears and perceived inabilities through lies.  They just create more of the same until you absolutely forget who you are and what you are here to do. 

I would like to include an excerpt from Michael’s book “A Truthful Opportunity” as a tribute to a wonderful person who left many friends behind as well as to share his wisdom that came from many dark days early on in his life that made him into the transparent, loving person that we all cared very deeply for. 

“Pain directs us to the truth when we are disconnected.  Pain is only necessary for those who choose not to see or hear what God has given them.  This is why not everyone encounters the same amount of pain in life.  Some only need to be gently nudged in order to walk through the door where awareness and light exist on the other side.  Others will not move, so the pain becomes greater in order to push them through the door.  Pain appears when we have placed ourselves so far in the darkness that we can’t see and we use it to light the way.  The longer you stand in the darkness, the greater the pain.  My pain pushed me into the light.  I connected to the truth of the seen and unseen world around me, finding my place in it. 

Pain is a tool.  It’s one of the many that we have available to us.  Throughout my life, my pain had nudged me forward many times, but more often than not I had chosen to deny it.  Before, I had always chosen to keep my fear of looking at my pain in the back of my closet.  Knowing that I could retreat into my closet, away from this light, offered an inept solace.  Now, the truth and all it represented radiated a loving light that encompassed me in an incredible powerful way.  I wasn’t accustomed to feeling connected to my pain.  It’s power was unmistakable.  Sometimes, when I stepped out of the darkness into the bright light, my eyes hurt from the glare.  I wanted to retreat.  But when I looked more closely, I realized it was the light that I needed and the darkness I feared.  Now I knew I had to go further.  If I didn’t do this, I would continue to find ways to disconnect in order to deny my pain, instead of progressing along the new path I had begun.  Live long enough in a frame of mind and it becomes a reality.” 

-Peace to you Michael.

You can learn more about Michael Kendall at

Published by: gbrianbenson

Founder of Reawaken Media. Writer, multiple award-winning author, TEDx speaker, actor, filmmaker, storyteller, inspirational poet, radio personality, finisher of over 50 triathlons (including 4 Ironman distance races) and cross-country bicyclist. 2016 is already heating up for Brian as he he has a recurring part on the new TV show Sangre Negra, has been invited to give a TEDx talk in Pasadena at the end of May, was interviewed for the soon to be released documentary The Last Formula and will be releasing his new film short Searching for Happiness in early summer. In addition to acting in TV and film, Brian enjoys creating his own projects. In 2011 Brian created Guitar Man, a movie project that he wrote, produced and acted in that was filmed in downtown Reno, Nevada. The movie was written by Brian with the idea of sharing the messages ‘that we all have a lot in common’ and ‘that our true gifts reside within ourselves.’ Guitar Man was well received and was accepted to 11 movie festivals and was a winner at the Love Unlimited Film and Art Festival, won an honorable mention prize in the narrative short category at the 2011 Los Angeles Movie Awards as well as a Golden Reel Award from the Nevada Film Festival. Before Brian got into acting he authored four books, including Brian’s List – 26 1/2 Easy To Use Ideas on How to Live A Fun, Balanced, Healthy Life! which was the winner of a 2009 Next Generation Indie Book Award in the Self-Help category. Brian’s latest book Finding Your Voice was an award-winning Finalist in both the 2013 USA Book News and the Indie Excellence Book Awards. Brian lives in Los Angeles, California and will be releasing his first children's book "Steve the Alien" in late October of 2016. Visit Brian's website -

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